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For day 35 of 100 days of discomfort I met with an old classmate to help him market his show.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to get better at selling and marketing, so I offered to help him in exchange for snacks.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We met and brainstormed. I found it intimidating to brainstorm with someone. I haven\u2019t worked with other people in a while.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of my big discomforts is thinking out loud. I tackled this in the mock code interview<\/a> challenge.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But today I was trying to think out loud in an area I haven\u2019t been studying every day; marketing. So it was nervewracking.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019d like to be more comfortable with brainstorming out loud. Or even quietly in front of someone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I really fear exposing my process. In the past, I protected my process to an extreme, refusing even to work on projects during\u00a0 school hours. I’d wait until I was at home alone to work on a project. Even a group project.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because I\u2019ve logged every day of my coding progress this year, I\u2019ve become comfortable with revealing my coding process. Now I need to become comfortable revealing my process in other areas, and to people who are better honed in their skills.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What I Learned <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I need to have confidence. No maybe confidence is wrong. It\u2019s something else. I just need to not care. Don\u2019t judge your output too soon. Get messy. Put ideas out. Start with messy. Then you can only get better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

With these challenges, it sometimes feels like I\u2019ve overcome all my discomforts. Tackled all my insecurities. But then, one I forgot about resurfaces.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have a bad habit of comparing myself to others. That’s how I get validation. The root of my insecurities stem from this. When I’m cocky, I focus on how much better I am. Inversely, I devalue myself when I’m worse. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, when I’m totally secure, I focus on entirely different metrics. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I focus on the process. “Just showing up” becomes front and center. I notice all the micro successes and how failure reveals solutions. Concern for myself fades because I’m simply a tool for ideas and action. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In fact, when in this state, I’ll proudly put out bad work, knowing full well that anyone who judges me doesn’t understand the long term. In the long run, the people who fail a million times succeed a thousand times more than everyone else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My insecurity comes from the belief I have to be good now. I don\u2019t. Just make. Do. Show up. Everyday. Just try a little. Try to fail even. Free yourself.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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