Because of my challenges, I\u2019m recognizing the value of feedback. Many times I put myself in an uncomfortable position, and I wonder, what did people think?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019ve also realized that people tend to complain more than they give appreciation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
So for this challenge I decided to give appreciation to a brave friend.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yesterday, a friend of mine expressed some serious thoughts and intense emotions in a conversation with another friend. While I didn’t say much, my two friends talked about an incident that had been bothering me too. Hearing them talk helped me process my thoughts.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I wondered if the vulnerable friend was uncomfortable with me there. The vulnerable friend mainly directed the conversation to my other friend, who gave back solace. It seemed like it would have been more comfortable for them if I wasn\u2019t there. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But I appreciated that I got to hear what they both had to say. The incidence in discussion bothered me too. Yet I didn\u2019t have the courage or clarity to express myself to anyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sometimes when you\u2019re brave and put yourself in an uncomfortable position, someone else benefits. But often you never find out that you helped someone. I didn\u2019t want my friend\u2019s courage to go unrecognized. So the next day I messaged my friend how their openness helped me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It was hard for me to send the message because I wondered, will I make it worse? What if the message makes them more uncomfortable? What if I seem like a freak?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But if my intention is good, then it doesn\u2019t matter. If I make a mistake it\u2019s ok. I can only try to learn from my mistakes. I shouldn\u2019t hold back on life trying to avoid failure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019m very new to expressing appreciation. So it\u2019s inevitable that I will fail sometimes. But I should still try. The more I iterate the better I\u2019ll become.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I don\u2019t truely know if my friend experienced discomfort by being vulnerable in front of me. I didn\u2019t ask. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But I\u2019d like to think that if they were uncomfortable, my expressed appreciation (which was uncomfortable for me) encouraged them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Maybe now they\u2019ll be more inclined to take the uncomfortable path in the future, thereby helping more people. In this way, a \u201cgood life\u201d is a cycle of discomforts passed around as we help each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
To discomfort! <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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