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I thought; Sit down next to someone. Say, “How is your day going?” Easy peasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But as soon as I got on the train, I froze. Every excuse ran through my brain: No one wants to talk to a stranger on the train. What if I interrupt important work they’re doing on their smart phone? And what If I make them uncomfortabl<\/em>e? I already did uncomfortable things today, I don’t need to do this challenge.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then I remembered my talk with Nat Sharpe<\/a>. During his challenges, his brain mastered the art of coming up with excuses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So I recognized what my brain was doing. It was trying to keep me comfortable by coming up with reasons to not go into the discomfort zone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even though I knew my brain was tricking me, it was hard to combat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After about 20 minutes of the train ride, I realized I had to make my move. My stop was approaching. But every passenger glued their face to their devices. How do I interrupt their private digital moments? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Connect on Genuine Interest<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A man working on his computer the whole time caught my attention. I thought it was time efficient of him to be doing work on the train. And so I realized, I could use this point to genuinely connect with him. I’d let him know his productivity impressed me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I worried, would such a time-efficient-person be bothered by my interruption? As I looked at him nervously he looked up and smiled. I’ve never been so happy to see a stranger smile! This was my moment!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I told him how impressive his work ethic was. He had a very distinct friendly voice, like Wallace Shawn. It put me at ease.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We talked before my stop. He turned out to be a very interesting man. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It helped that my comment was genuine, and not a throw away remark. Since I’m interested in productivity, connecting with someone who’s demonstrating productivity lead to a genuine connection. Similar values, similar interests.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My stop came up quickly. I asked how I could find him. He told me where he worked and what his name was. He yelled as the door closed, “Email me!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I found him online, and we’ve continued our chat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s really late so I’m gonna stop writing. Sorry if there are typos!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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